Closure. What does it mean? The Oxford dictionary defines it as a feeling that an emotional or traumatic experience has been resolved. I would say it is a place where you can finally turn the page and don’t need any more answers. You’ve finally accepted what happened, accepted the fact that it’s part of your story, and you have an emotional release about it. It doesn’t affect you anymore. The need for closure may apply in various relationships or events that happened in a person’s life.
To have it, you may do your best to understand all the ‘what,’ the ‘when,’ the ‘where,’ the ‘how,’ the ‘why’ without having the right answers. Or you may get all the answers but still ponder on the “what if.” Or you may bury a specific event because it is so painful to go there again. And so, you just try to live with it, adapt yourself while trying different ways to have some sort of peace to move on. But deep in your heart, you know it is still there, still painful and unresolved. You just push it away, suppress the emotions, and continue with your life. It shouldn’t be like that.
I can give you a list of things to do to have emotional closure, but the best way is to turn to Jesus. He is the only one who can give you the kind of closure you need, the kind that makes you whole again and filled with love and peace. He has the power to set you free from darkness. You don’t have to live with broken pieces of your heart and settle for a second-best life. Jesus can give you a new heart, a new life, and a new purpose. It is never too late.
Every person is unique with different personalities, experiences, reactions, emotions that only Jesus can understand. He is the best confidant you can ever have. So, you can honestly pour out your heart to Him and wholeheartedly tell Him all about your pain, grief, sorrow, anger, regret, expectations, emptiness. He knows your hidden truths, even the darkest ones. He also knows your deepest needs and deepest fears. Still, His love for you is unfailing and unconditional. He died on the cross for you. 1 John 3:16 (NLT) says that we know what real love is because Jesus gave up His life for us.
You can freely ask Jesus for help. He is faithful. He loves you and wants you to have a life filled with blessings. He will help you. He will guide you to the right persons who will have the right words at the right time to help you understand, overcome, have an emotional release and breakthrough. He will do it when you are ready emotionally and mentally. He is patient. He won’t overwhelm you but will reveal one thing at a time, at your own pace.
You can leave the matter in Jesus’s hands and trust Him to replace all the heaviness of your heart with His Love, His Joy, and His Peace. Ephesians 3:19 (NLT) says, “May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” There is hope with Jesus. You can be whole again in your mind, body, and soul.
Jesus is powerful. He rose from the dead and now lives for eternity. Who, except Jesus, can defeat death? He has the power to set you free and give you abundance of life. He is the way, the truth, and the life. (John 14:6, NLT) He can help you only when you open your heart to Him and trust Him. The choice is yours.
If as a woman you desire to have emotional closure on certain events, I’d love to connect with you. Book a free discovery session on Cindy@anewforpurpose.com